Anna Green wrote:Buns Buns Buns! So happy for you, you wonderful lady!
thanks, Anna! I'm pretty excited. We found a band for me that matches the one Wylie's grandfather wore. I'm picking up the re-sized ring on Wednesday
They are simple, unembellished yellow gold bands. My VERY favorite style of wedding band. Oy I can't believe I'm getting married!
But we've been living together for over two years, and our relationship is kind of exciting. I mean, we're easy with each other, and we've had our share of ups and downs and have come to treasure what we have. Wylie is an absolutely stellar listener, and he remembers. It's kind of stunning, actually. You know, people get this idea in their heads of what a "sensitive man" is like. Tender, and soft spoken, and easy-going. Well let me tell you something, Wylie is a sensitive man who is stalwart, cranky, frank, and sometimes bossy.
Prime example (when I first realized this guy was a keeper)...shortly after we hooked up, he wanted to come spend the night at my house, but he'd had a drink and didn't want to drive, so I picked him up. I had my Queen CD blasting. It was the first thing I purchased for myself after my marriage fell apart, and I called it my "divorce CD". At some point a few weeks earlier, I had mentioned it to Wylie just off-handed in a conversation. Well, I picked him up, music blaring away and he said (gruffly) "Why are you playing this music?"
I was all "Because I wanted to rock n roll" thinking "Geez dude, ease up"...he said "But WHY?" and turned it down. "It's your DIVORCE CD. What happened to you today that you had to have THIS music?" And that stopped me in my tracks. It just so happened that my mom and my oldest son had been in a fight over something that day. I had heard from both of them, and I WAS upset...but I hadn't put it together that I chose my DIVORCE CD to try and match the emotional crap I was experiencing.
Now what kind of man 1) remembers that bit of detail just from a casual mention weeks earlier and 2) ACTUALLY recognizes what it might mean if a person PLAYS their divorce CD at high volume in the car? And he is that way with lots of things, but he's not this tender "gaze into your eyes and softly touch your hand while you speak" type AT ALL. In fact, he kind of hates intimate pillow talk. But boy does he love to snuggle
and he's got a romantic side that comes out once in a while, without being mushy. And some days he's grumpy and impatient, or I'm flighty and inconsiderate and we tick each other off, and duke it out, and make up. It's a REAL relationship. Like, foundations in REALITY. I drive him crazy and he sometimes hurts my feelings...and we hold hands when we walk, and he spoons me in bed, and he tells me to be quiet when I get up because he isn't a morning person, and I tell him to watch his tone of voice...it's wonderful! and quite challenging. And so worth it!
So we got the wedding bands done, and also found a VERY NICE bedroom set, 18 months no interest, very affordable payments, we'll pay it off before 18 months, no problem.
Isn't that nice? Six drawers under the bed, a five drawer chest, eight drawer dresser with mirror, bedside tables. A headboard with little shelves for glasses or phone. A pretty style, lovely gray color.
And the bed is tall, which is important to us.
Have to tell on my mom here...the bathroom. So, my mom is a "see the trees, not the forest" type of person. She wants all the details absolutely perfect, and she asks dozens and dozens of questions. She's a sweet lady with a bright, cheery personality who wants to control all the minutiae of any given project. She'll drive you crazy. And we have Wylie, who doesn't like to be told what to do, who is pitching in with a lot of the work on this bathroom project, and biting his tongue and steaming out the ears with her micro-managing.
Well, she had it in her head exactly where the wall was to be, even though putting it where she wanted it would mean some off-center arrangements. Wylie and my brother both tried to explain why having the wall where they thought would be best, but she wouldn't have it and put her foot down. The wall is GOING to be HERE. PERIOD!
so that's how the guy roughed it in. And the man who is going to be tiling the shower came to measure on Saturday and said "wait, this will mean an extra something something over my estimated price" ... Wylie pointed out to my mom where THEY wanted the wall, vs where SHE wanted the wall and told her "it's going to cost you extra"
She said "oh"
and the shower is going to be VAST. So. Freaking. Huge. also, the toilet will be slightly off center in its space. Because my mom wanted the wall HERE, by George.
Well, I figure if my mom and Wylie kill each other during this bathroom project, I'll have the house to myself...but I'll need to make sure their life insurance policies are up to date
But once we get settled in, we'll enjoy having a yard and a quiet neighborhood. I'm looking forward to it, though we do have our work cut out for us, that's for sure.
My eating remains really good. I think it's just a thing that on the weekend, it's likely that I'll eat a meal with slightly higher fat content, but I don't go berserk, and meals overall are right on target so I'm not going to stress over it. And maybe some day I'll get to the point of saying "hell no! I don't eat any added fat AT ALL" but until then, if all my meals during the week are on plan, and one meal on the weekend tends to be a bit higher in fat...well, that's how it is. And this past weekend the "higher fat" meal was a scrumptious panini sandwich at The Corner Bakery. It tasted real good after a long day of tootling around looking at furniture and stuff. But it had pesto as an ingredient, and it was grilled.
Oh...hahahahah I almost forgot. The scale shows me down another pound! woot!