A couple more commentaries about eating, and overeating, and having a plan of eating:
My plan of eating is something like, "Eat two large meals a day, and live life in between", and of course, the potential trip-up is the "live life in between". Because to do that, I need to be pretty clear on what I want to DO with my life in between -- which can be kinda tricky at times.
I'm not sure if it's clear just from reading the kinds of things I write, but sometimes the ways that other people live their life, rings very, very hollow for me. One thing that some people do in our society, is that they focus on monetary or consumption goals, as a driving force for their life. Like, maybe someone wants to save up for a new house, or they wanna plan a vacation to Austria.
And all the consumption goals really ring hollow for me -- I honestly drive a 97 ford taurus, and I live in a little space behind my landlord's garage, and I wear a buncha funky clothes that I buy at thrift stores, and I am perfectly happy with my possessions and circumstances. There would be no greater happiness for me, in driving a different car, or living in a different place, or going and sleeping in a hotel at a resort somewhere.
And there are other ways that other people spend their time, that aren't for me either. Like, there are people who find some relaxation or pleasure or meaning, in watching television, or consuming movies or reading books, and for whatever reason, I just see a lot of that as meaningless in my life. Like, I could work my way through three or four novels this month, and somehow just be left with the sense of, "Well, that was pointless."
So at times, I'm not positive what I DO see myself doing with "life in between". Which has been something that has tended to keep me in the food.
I mean, in OA, we are encouraged to identify the qualities that we do not love about ourselves, and to really be hoenst with ourselves about what those qualities are. We put them on paper, and we don't shy away from that. And I think there is something to be had in that -- to find avenues of personal transformation and practice that in between meals.
Also, there are ways of reaching out to people who are trying to work their way out of food addictions, and I think that would be a meaningful path of "living life in between".
But to be totally honest, I scheduled myself for lots of different shifts at work this winter (because I just crumble a little bit in the winter -- I am just so averse to the cold and the dark, that I kinda didn't figure out what else I could do with myself to get through it). That was my version of "life in between". And I probably don't need to point out that that's not really a meaningful way to live. I mean, think about it: I work extra hours to make money I don't need. Ha! Like, "What could go wrong????". An ill-conceived plan of living "life in between", to say the least!
So that's the thing right now, is finding and establishing different grooves so that I really can live life in between!
For right now, just getting a few days of back-to-back abstinence, and being steadier with the housework (not letting laundry pile up and such!) is an excellent start, but I can kinda see where I would want to go with things from here.