by kkrichar » Fri Oct 11, 2013 9:35 am
Beth, there is a parking lot a mile from my office that is designated for VA employees. There's a bus that goes back and forth but if the weather isn't too bad and I'm not carrying too much stuff I walk.
OK, last night I had brown rice and no-oil granola cereal for dinner. I was too hungry by the time I got home. I planned to make my stir fry but while the rice was cooking I snarfed a bowl of cereal. By the time the rice was done I didn't feel like making the stir fry anymore. So, I just ate a bowl of the rice with soy sauce. Tonight, now that the rice is already cooked, I plan to finally make the stir fry I've been craving all week.
I had my AA jail meeting last night and there were more women there than usual. A couple of them seemed pretty serious about getting clean and sober. I was reminded of what it looks like to really work on the 12-steps in early sobriety. I want to believe I'm using the principles of AA to get past my food issues but I wonder if I really am. I know I've talked about this before but I'm going to repeat it again for my own sake. After my first AA meeting I never had the desire to drink again. It's really easy to stay sober if you don't want a drink. I believe that continuing to go to meetings, and working with a sponsor, and sponsoring other people, and volunteering at the jail, and going through the 12-steps when I did all helped stave off that pesky desire to drink. However, the important point I'm making here is that I've never learned how to fight an over-whelming desire. When I had the desire to drink I drank. When I have the desire to eating SAD or VAD I eat it. Period. I kept thinking if I did the steps or went to meetings or whatever eventually my desire to eat non-McD food would go away like my desire to drink. But that never happened. It may never happen. I may have to learn how to stay clean in the face of intense desire.
So, basically, that just means I think I'll try going through the steps again with food. Also, I think I might go to meetings where people struggle more. There's one place in town that has a lot of meetings and the people there are little bit different from the people at meetings I usually attend. I used to avoid the place because they smoked in meetings but it's non-smoking now. I have friends that go to those meetings and I think I could learn a lot. Life doesn't always hand you everything you want. Sometimes you have to struggle. I've seen people struggle and succeed. I just need to spend a little more time with people like that and really listen to what they're sharing.
In that same vein, I plan to make every effort to come here and describe that battle in my head. Another thing I've said many times is that I always assume anyone who accomplishes something I can't accomplish must have it easier than me. If you can just read the China Study or watch Forks Over Knives and completely change the way you eat and never look back then you must not have the food issues I have. Right? Well, people don't often tell you how much they struggle. They do things and it looks easy from the outside. Likewise, some people fly right off the cliff and look like they didn't even try. We just don't know what's going on inside other people's heads when they do the things they do. That's part of what makes AA successful. People share with you all the dirty, ugly, scary stuff going on inside their heads. The things you would never tell a coworker out of fear of rejection or, worse yet, demonstrating weakness. Somewhere, back in the long-ago days, and maybe the not so long-ago days, we learned to never show our vulnerabilities. People (or wildabeasts) will use it against us. Meanwhile, we're all walking around thinking we're the only ones who struggle or think a certain way.
So, by sharing what is actually happening in my mind as it's happening could help me. Maybe just pausing enough to write it out will give me the time to change my mind about eating off plan. Maybe someone else will read my thoughts and say, "OMG, I used to think exactly like that and here's what I did....." or maybe someone who was thinking about logging off the forums for good because no one else seems to struggle like they do will stick around long enough to find a solution for themselves. You never know.
Breakfast: oatmeal with blueberries, banana and 1 T chia seeds, coffee
Lunch: Million Bean Soup with potatoes, Honey Crisp apple, cherry and grape tomatoes from my tomato plants!
Dinner: stir fry over brown rice
No run tonight. Going to Scream Acres with friends!!! I LOVE Halloween and all things SCARY! This place has 3 things you go through. The first is like a circus tent, the second is a slaughter house and the 3rd is a corn field!!! Last year one of my friends accidentally said my name and the monsters chased me through the corn field saying, "KELLY! KEEEEELLLLLLY! We're coming for you Kelly." I ran like the wind leaving all my friends to die. It was AWESOME!!!!
Have a great weekend everybody.
HW: 220 lbs BMI=36.3
CW: 162 lbs BMI=26.5
GW: 135 lbs BMI=22.3