Hey Anna - I do understand, and you're one of the bright points on the board. I'm still feeling like hiding here in my own little corner of the journal section, but am very glad you found me.
My cravings have gone down a bit, but I find it is very much linked to my menstrual cycle. The week before my period I am Cruising for Food constantly. Doesn't matter how full I am, I just want to eat more and more. The bad stuff would be better, but I can still binge on "good" stuff. It was a relief when I looked back over the months and realized that's what was going on - that it wasn't some urge born out of my denial that was going to continue to build until I gave in. I now tell myself I know what's going on and I just need to limit the damage I do for the days I'm crazy and it will pass.
It's also helping me to tell myself that I need to see most non-McD food in the same way that an ex-smoker needs to see cigarettes and alcoholics need to see alcohol. Just one is too much and nowhere near enough. Meat and cheese and oil and even lowfat vegan junk food are always going to look good and (probably) taste good to me. I haven't had cheese in over a decade and the smell of it cooking still makes me salivate. I haven't had meat (in the form of meat - I'm sure I've had derivatives in broth/sauces) in years and I know I'm only one bite away from inhaling a whole container of chicken fried rice or half a roast chicken or a steak. That's just the way it is. It sucks - I wish I were one of those people who end up revolted at the sight/thought/touch of meat/dairy but I'm not and I've just gotta get over it.
I'm working on figuring out where the boundaries in my head around trigger and non-trigger treat foods are. By trigger, I mean something that's likely to cause a several day (if I'm lucky) binge on crap. I can draw a good solid line around the oil that is probably in the sauce of my veggies/rice that my local shop makes me (no oil in the wok) - I don't have the craving to add oil anywhere else. Every few weeks I have 2-3 pieces of inari, and the small amount of fried tofu doesn't set me off. I am fairly sure that if I just had even one bite of chicken or steak, though, that I'd have violated the "no meat" rule and then it would be a free-for-all.
Several weeks ago I was having a "f-everything" day. I didn't care. I was sick of everything, I was tired, I'd been working too hard and dammit, I wanted a treat that wasn't some lame and sanctimonious piece of fruit. I stole two little meringues from the kids - total sugar and egg white. I counted them in my food diary (all 80 calories), ate them, and moved on. I'm not planning to make a habit of that, but it does show that some junk food triggers me and some I'm able to put tightly into a self-contained box in my head. I'm not sure any of that makes sense!!!
Anyway, for me there's the axis of trigger vs non-trigger and also the spectrum from "health great" through "health neutral" to "health bad." For example, corn and potatoes and brown rice and veggies are in the top category. Towards the "health neutral" area are white rice, white pasta, and other processed foods that although they may not give me much beyond calories, they're not actively damaging me. Between the neutral and the bad end are some foods that I shouldn't eat but still do (high salt and processed mainly, though no fat and not that high calorie). At the bad end are the oils and vegan junk foods that are not only highly processed but also high fat and high calorie. They, interestingly, do tend to trigger me to want more crap. Boy, do I have a fat tooth.
I'm trying not to think about never getting a food high again. I don't have enough else in my life to offset that yet - certainly nothing that matches the intoxicating rush, pleasure and aftermath of gorging on unhealthy food. And I know that you get that there are two parts to that: the unhealthy food and the gorging, which are two separate things that may or may not overlap. I think everyone understands the appeal of the unhealthy food, I don't think everyone gets the appeal of the gorging and how it is different.
Anyway, I need to get back to my epilepsy report. I have a presentation on Tuesday and I only finished analysis yesterday... bye bye weekend!!!