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I have also strayed from the diet due to doubts, only to be reminded that the diet is pivotal for pain relief!
I inhaled the biggest chili-cheese tator tot Sonic could make me. With a Diet Dr. Pepper, of course.
Norm wrote:What doesn't work for me is to tell myself I can't have those foods, that they are off limits. Sure, my will might win that battle most of the time, but resentment will creep in and eventually I'll cave. It's my nature. Instead I tell myself that I could have some if I wanted to, but keep in mind all of the reasons why I gave them up in the first place. I haven't been seriously tempted by foods I shouldn't eat in a long, long time, even if they're sitting right in front of me.
I was, however, mildly tempted the other night. In an attempt to build community I have been inviting people from the neighborhood over to play board games during the nice days of summer. The other day one of the guys wanted to come but his wife was cooking up fried chicken and he didn't want to miss it. I told him to come anyway and have his wife bring his dinner over when it was done, that I'd also be eating my dinner during the game. She brought over a HUGE platter of pan fried chicken and rolls slathered with butter. It was a meal the old Norm would have cooked and ate. And it was hot, needed to set and cool down. So it sat there for a good long while and then it took him forever to eat it because it was such a huge platter of food. I admit... it looked good and it SMELLED heavenly. The smell triggered many fond memories of similar meals I'd eaten and the intense pleasure they brought me.
Had I told myself I couldn't have any I'd have had a battle in my mind I quite likely would have lost. I instead asked myself why it smelled so good, when for the most part the smell of meat, especially raw meat, has become such a turn off to me. And I knew it was because it triggered fond memories. I wouldn't eat that chicken because it appealed to me then and there, because quite honestly, it didn't.. I would have eaten it trying to capture the pleasure I felt before. And I knew that wouldn't be possible.
I learned from my addiction to alcohol many years ago that many people drink ever increasing amounts of alcohol trying to recapture the initial pleasure alcohol brought them in the past... and requiring more and more alcohol while bringing them less and less pleasure...
Then I was sad for about 30 seconds before I remembered I'd already gone through this process and let it go, went back to eating my potatoes, and all was well with the world.
The process I'm referring to is the letting go of foods and relationships to foods I've had in the past. it's a grieving process, much like you go through during a divorce. People who do not go through this process after a divorce carry much more baggage into their future that will plague them forever, causing them to make bad decisions and hinder their ability to "get it right" the next time. Same thing with the relationships we have with food. If we do not properly say goodbye, if we do not grieve their loss then we're likely to make a bad decision when we find ourselves sitting at the same table with them.
I'd gone through that process and that plate of chicken might as well of been my ex-wife... Still looked good... still smelled wonderful.... but I wasn't touching it. Hell no!!
The process I'm referring to is the letting go of foods and relationships to foods I've had in the past. it's a grieving process, much like you go through during a divorce. People who do not go through this process after a divorce carry much more baggage into their future that will plague them forever, causing them to make bad decisions and hinder their ability to "get it right" the next time. Same thing with the relationships we have with food. If we do not properly say goodbye, if we do not grieve their loss then we're likely to make a bad decision when we find ourselves sitting at the same table with them.
It took me 8 months and quite a few slips-ups, followed by a MAJOR slip up that caused lots of pain, to really get me to accept and EMBRACE that this was it for life.
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