VivianS - That is another very nice loss this week! Congratulations on your ongoing progress! Muddling our way past unforeseen challenges, like the situation you shared about the ears of corn, is part of how we learn and grow. You were faced with an obstacle you weren't expecting and figured out what would be necessary to solve the same problem in the future; I think that is exactly the right approach to take. It sounds like you are really serving as a good example for those little children about how to eat in a healthful way; having appropriate foods like fruit available, visible, and readily accessible seems like a great way to support the kids making good choices. I totally agree with you that boundaries serve a very important purpose, in many aspects of our lives.
grape - Down a pound! Although that pair of birthday celebrations and the attendant non adherent meals were a detour, it sounds like you did a great job getting back on track for the remainder of the week. Wishing you an imminent and satisfactory resolution to your toe situation! Broken toes are no fun at all. Happy weekend and cheers for doing your best!
cmcavazos - Cheers! It can certainly be a challenge to avoid added salt, sugar, oil and other calorie rich foods when dining out; restaurants tend to present meals that include all those things in abundance. It appears, apart from the out of town restaurant meals, you made the best of the rest of your week. Jeff's
basic principles for Dining Out offer some great suggestions for how to overcome that challenge in the future.
lmggallagher - Hang in there, Michelle! Unquestionably, we are living in times (and situations) that can feel extremely stressful! I used to suffer from chronic sinus infections, so I can vividly imagine how uncomfortable, unpleasant, and exhausting dealing with that can be; couple that with lack of sleep, and it is no wonder that your "willpower" started to ebb. I hope your respiratory issues can be promptly brought to a satisfactory resolution.
Drawing on what Dr. Lisle discusses in
The Story of Willpower – What it Is & How it Works, the best way to replenish fading "willpower," would seem to be taking a moment to eat the recommended foods, before turning to the cookies and chips (I know that is easy to say, but can be quite challenging to do). Of course, the most important thing after facing a setback is to get back on track as soon as one is able. Now that you feel like you've returned to more effective coping strategies, maybe it is a good time to take inventory of your "toolbox" and highlight some particular tools to reach for the next time things feel overwhelming. Keep doing the best you can!
cmjens - Oh my goodness! The refrigerator and range both expiring in the same week! I am sure that made for a frustrating time. Now that you've been able to get them replaced, try not to let that unexpected calamity continue to reverberate in your choices and routine going forward. Today is always a great day for getting back to the recommended pattern of behavior.
texaslil - 3 lbs is a substantial loss, Laila! I can see why you're feeling happy with that result!
Wildgoose proffered an excellent answer to your question about preloading and the 50/50 recommendation. As she mentions,
On Salad, Soup, and Success, is one of the best resources explaining the principles behind those particular recommendations. If anyone wants to really dive down into the topic,
this post from Jeff covers some of the same ground, and
Finding The Sweet Spot: Balancing Calorie Density, Nutrient Density & Satiety goes into detail about the overall calorie density we are aiming to establish, and why it can also be important not to neglect starches, and push the calorie density too low. The behaviors outlined in the MWL 10-Point Checklist are designed to offer the best balance between calorie density, nutrient density and lasting satiety. Aside from 1 & 2, how did things go this week with the other 8 recommendations?
jkcook - Congratulations on the new job! Significant changes in our routine, environment, and circumstances often serve to knock us off course for a bit. Were there particular guidelines that presented the biggest challenge this week? Did you find there were some recommended behaviors you were able to maintain within this new context? The important thing is to take a moment to assess, and get back on track by implementing solutions for the problems that are making adherence feel difficult to attain. Considering some of the base ingredients in a poke bowl, I can imagine an adherent version could be assembled if some ingredients were omitted - it could just be a matter of having a chat with the server, chef or manager. I'm sure with a little planning and preparation, you can figure out how to make MWL work within your changed routine. That "spaghetti potato" dinner sounds very yummy!
chef16 - Those pounds continue to drop off, Doreen! Keep whittling away at those remaining higher fat and calorie rich foods, and moving toward closer adherence. I'm so glad you are feeling excited, happy and satisfied with your progress! This might be a good time to review Jeff's post on
Why We Hit Plateaus and What We Can Do About Them; if you do hit a plateau in the future, you'll know exactly what to do!
Ziara - Hang in there! Jeff's
Rules & Guidelines for Reading Labels can help determine whether a particular condiment is suitable for MWL. Did some particular situation result in you eating the tofu, or was it just something you decided to have in the moment? Higher fat foods are one of the contributors to
Passive Overconsumption.
JeffN wrote:Higher Fat Foods
As the percentage of calories from fat goes up, we are more likely to over-consume calories, especially from added fats/oils. Adding fats/oils to food increases the overall percentage of calories from fat and the overall calorie density and decreases the overall satiety (per calorie). On a WFPB diet, the foods that are higher in fat are peanuts, soybeans, avocados, nuts, seeds and oils.
I have a tendency toward eating very quickly, so I know what you mean about realizing you're somewhat overfull 20 or 30 minutes after the meal. It really helped me to make a conscious effort to eat more slowly, as Dr. McDougall recommends in
Pushing Your Set Point to the Limits.
John McDougall wrote:Eat Slowly and Frequently
(3) Improved awareness. This is most important, because when you eat slowly and frequently, your brain and body have more time to receive the "I'm full" messages from your intestines that you have eaten. Gorging on a large meal generally means you will take in more food than you need long before your mind registers that you have eaten sufficient food to meet your needs.
Practical Tips for Home Compliance: Divide all your meals into smaller portions. For example, eat a medium-sized plate of food, leave the table for half an hour, and if you are still hungry, return for another similarly-sized plate. Plan on many meals, and snacking throughout the day on healthy choices.
It often takes a little time, and some trial and error, to zero in on "comfortably full;" just continue to be mindful and make sensible adjustments as you go.
JaBee - Woo-hoo! Your inaugural week of 10/10 and a 2 pound loss!
Simplicity can definitely make success easier to attain. Cheers to your husband for helping to create an environment that supports your progress. Keep it up!
Gimmelean - Cheers! Trying to see the bright side of things and doing the things we can to support our health is always a worthwhile endeavor, right? I'm really curious about the video you mentioned; I don't think I've seen that - do you have a link? Like you, I've found daily exercise to be immensely important for putting me in the best state to make the most of my days. Considering that very slight change in weight, I'm guessing you probably didn't deviate too dramatically from your established habits. As you say, always best not to push the envelope toward "what I can get away with."
Dr. Lisle sometimes mentions that expecting "perfection" can, for some, bring accompanying challenges (I believe he covers this briefly, near the end of his
Three Top Tips for Dietary Success). I have to admit this was something I struggled with, on occasion.
Mark Cooper wrote:My personal default tends to be aiming toward perfection, but that path is clearly fraught with troubles; we humans are imperfect by our very nature, so if our goal is perfection we are guaranteed to fall short. Circumstances also sometimes intervene, making perfection unattainable despite all our efforts. Often the very best we can do still won't measure up against "perfect."
It seems advantageous to me to forfeit perfection as a goal, and instead pursue excellence. I can put forward my best efforts each week to do an excellent job working on the fundamental principles, behaviors and skills that are important and relevant to me. When I inevitably make mistakes, I try to exercise self-compassion, recognizing it's OK not to be perfect and that mistakes are a natural part of the learning process, as Jeff has so eloquently said.
JeffN wrote:5) BE PERSISTENT AND WORK HARD: Success is a marathon, not a
sprint. Never give up.
Like in all things, there will be some setbacks on the road to
health, and some difficult times ahead. This IS part of the
process. Relapse/setbacks do not equal failure, they are part
of the process of change (and success) that we all go through.
You will also encounter some obstacles. These are not there
as a sign for you to quit, but as a challenge to strengthen
your commitment to reaching your goals.
I think perhaps the difference between the pursuit of excellence vs. perfection is differentiated in our response to mistakes and obstacles - when I was seeking perfection, and made a mistake I often tended to "knock over the table" and give up for that day (or days or week
). That usually left me depressed, with a lot of practice at giving up, but very little practical experience overcoming obstacles or learning how to mitigate future mistakes.
In pursuing excellence, mistakes and failures can provide an opportunity for growth; I can learn something each time, surmounting that obstacle (usually not on the first attempt) and be better for it. That feels like the path to mastery - not being perfect or free from mistakes, but navigating situations with confidence and poise, knowing how to apply the fundamentals, recognizing what "doing the best I can" looks like in a given situation, and striving to do even better next time. That may be a goal that is always just out of my reach, but I find the chasing of it inspiring.
Continue on your path to mastery!
Drew* - Welcome back and congratulations on 4 strong days adhering to the MWL 10-Point Checklist! You are absolutely right that consistency is necessary for lasting success; are there particular obstacles making it more difficult to maintain a consistent routine? I can clearly picture that mess in your microwave! I think that has happened to me nearly every time I've tried to microwave oatmeal; I finally just admitted defeat and decided to stick with the stovetop, or my Instant Pot.
I'm glad you were able to salvage you breakfast and made a serendipitous discovery, too! Periodically assessing and staying aware of my pattern of behavior really definitely helps me stay on track. Keep at it!
Noella - Excellent! Ten Smilies and another pound gone! I think apple is delicious in salads; I nearly always include a chopped apple in my first salad of the day - YUM! The morning after your first snow sounds gorgeous. I'm sure being able to take those daily walks has been quite enjoyable with all the lovely scenery. Stay excited and inspired!
whereamac - Kudos! How would you assess your adherence to the
recommended pattern of behavior over the past week?
Moonlight - Cheers! Staying focused and eliminating cookies seem like laudable and achievable goals for the week ahead. You've gotten back into the habit of practicing the first pair of recommendations from the checklist, now to concentrate on incorporating the remaining behaviors. I absolutely agree with you about trying to focus on the things we can control; the amount of time and worry we direct at everything we can't control or influence, by definition, can't really change our outcomes, can it? What do you think about trying to always, at least, eat something that is recommended
before you start "self-soothing" with troublesome foods? Do you feel like the cookies would still be just as enticing after having eaten an apple (or whatever appropriate food you enjoy most)? What things did you do to successfully end "the cheese habit?" Would those same tactics work for any of the remaining temptations? Just keep working, trying, and adjusting, and remember to look on yourself with compassion.
CUgorji22 - YAY! Lots of adherent days and down 2.6 lbs! Definitely headed in the right direction! What a great list of victories to celebrate, and so fun to be able to share that with a friend. Sounds like you have an attentive trainer! For your Friday "Family Fun Night," would Jeff's
principles for Dining Out help you figure out how to make the best choice for a takeout order? If you are able to place the order by phone, you might even be able to just adapt the information from the
Dining Out Cards to help give the cooks an idea what they might be able to offer. I'm so sorry to hear about your friend's medical issues; I hope that situation has a happy resolution. I can imagine how that event, coupled with your results this week would be a powerful experience.
CUgorji22 wrote:Every day (or week) won't be easy BUT this lifestyle change is essential to ensure I can live my best life!
So true! Not always easy, but ALWAYS worth it.