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Why not take ourselves off the "distribution list" of people who seem to carry an air of drama, bullying or victimhood?
Chikiwing wrote:Scratch a liberal and you'll find a hypocrite every time.
roundcoconut wrote:I think the phrase, "It's the food" is the right one here. It's not bodies that we are (primarily) in denial about -- it's the food.
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So we kinda keep our mouths shut about their bodies (which I think is polite and appropriate), until we can be open and honest about the food.
It's the food, its the food, it's the food. The internal and external damage to the bodies are just byproducts -- no sense in even paying much attention to HOW the damage and burdens to the body are manifesting! Just that we know they ARE manifesting, in obvious ways and less obvious ways.
Atheria wrote:I just saw this bodybuilder on YouTube defending having a gut as a man by saying it means he's more virile! What?!
Chikiwing wrote:Kaye wrote:
100% agree, I don't really understand why anyone wants to "shame" anyone else about anything.
I do.
And somehow all this Anti-Shaming rhetoric ends up producing women on magazine covers that look like the ones I show here. It all sounds good, like communism, but when it's implemented it's a disaster because it doesn't take into account human nature.
amandamechele wrote:I understand your and some other poster's point. You worry that the media and body positive groups are going to convince people this is the new normal, that being fat is healthy.
amandamechele wrote:But doesn't your argument about human nature work against this? Men tend to find younger, healthier and fit females more attractive then those who are not. Obese women are having this signalled to them everyday, so don't you worry, they know it!
amandamechele wrote:They are just trying to find other ways to gain self-esteem in order to get through all other aspects of
life while trying to figure out the very complex and difficult problem of what they believe is eating under the hunger drive for the very long amount of time required to actually take off a large amount of weight. I feel you may be virtue signalling as you look down on them for not having the same understanding and knowledge about diet that you already do.
amandamechele wrote:I take issue with your message's tone and use of the phrase fat shaming because it indicates you want
to say something that hurts, or makes uncomfortable, another individual in hopes that it affects a change in their behaviour to your desired goal. Most people associate the word shame with toxic shame and that is why I think your strategy does not work.
I also think the beginning of this article effectively addresses the points brought up in the media link that you posted.(I do not have time for the other link about Ana, so I cannot comment there). Maybe our disagreement here all comes down to semantics !
katgirl55 wrote:[In my weight loss program we were taught to set goals based on behavior and not on what the scale says, because that is what we can control. It didn't make sense at first, but focusing on the cause and not the symptom now seems very obvious.
I often say here that you cannot know what someone's story is just by looking at them. The snapshot of my obese body today doesn't tell you that I used to be much heavier, lost a good amount of weight, and am now eating plant-based to lose the remainder.
Asf or the athletes: for a long time females were taught that muscle was undesirable and "manly" but that has changed.
roundcoconut wrote:I will say that I think it can be useful to simply "block" the posters who feel most out of step with your values. When you do this, you'll find yourself reading a thread, and it'll say, "so-and-so is on your blocked list. Click here to show the full post", and so you will see everyone's comment except theirs.
We take ourselves off of mailing lists that are not in step with our values. Why not take ourselves off the "distribution list" of people who seem to carry an air of drama, bullying or victimhood?
Perhaps that can be of help to someone?
vgpedlr wrote:Tracking progress is great, but it doesn't happen fast enough. Tracking behaviors can happen every day and you always know well you're doing, if you track it. I recently "got" this by reading the book Fat Loss Happens on Monday by Josh Hillis. I read it because it's co-authored by a strength coach I've learned lots from. They describe the approach that's worked best for clients over the years, and the two foundations are a detailed food log, and an incremental approach to changing food behaviors. While its nutritional advice is rooted in the typical personal training advice of protein and healthy fat, it is not particularly dogmatic, and the behavioral approach is compatible. The clever title refers to making meal planning, shopping, and prep the #1 priority. So it happens first thing in the week, before any workouts.
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A welcome change. But I won't lie, some of those women cross fitters scare me.
Chikiwing wrote:Kaye wrote:
100% agree, I don't really understand why anyone wants to "shame" anyone else about anything.
I do.
And somehow all this Anti-Shaming rhetoric ends up producing women on magazine covers that look like the ones I show here. It all sounds good, like communism, but when it's implemented it's a disaster because it doesn't take into account human nature.
Kaye wrote: It's not anti shaming rhetoric to ask for sensitivity to other peoples feelings. Surely human nature is about kindness to others not being judgemental of them and their bodies. A body is just a shell, its the spirit inside it that matters. I would still rather be fat and kind than slim and unkind or judgemental. Better still I would prefer to be slim and kind and will continue to strive for that
Kaye wrote:
Its not anti shaming rhetoric to ask for sensitivity to other peoples feelings. Surely human nature is about kindness to others not being judgemental of them and their bodies. A body is just a shell, its the spirit inside it that matters. I would still rather be fat and kind than slim and unkind or judgemental. Better still I would prefer to be slim and kind and will continue to strive for that
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