by roundcoconut » Fri Feb 13, 2015 10:32 pm
Yeah, I wouldn't overlook this woman's message just because she gets paid to help people with their food addictions. Everyone's got to find a way to get paid for their time, and I don't think that's dishonorable.
Summary of ideas in Video 1: (long and comprehensive)
On Will Power:
- With any attempt to change our way of eating, we typically arm ourselves only with a notion of which foods we will be eating and which foods we will be avoiding
- From there, we typically rely on our stores of will power to make it happen. This is a big mistake.
- Will power is easily weakened and depleted by various situations -- having to make decisions is taxing and this depletes will power; stressful situations are taxing and that depletes will power too; trying to respond appropriately in tough interpersonal encounters is also very taxing and depletes your will power. Most emotionally or intellectually taxing tasks leave little mental energy to make good food choices.
- For example, someone who has just spent the afternoon in a tense conflict interaction, or focused intensely on trying to write a proposal, will approach a buffet and be very vulnerable to making iffy choices. They have already taxed their emotional energy and have little left to exercise will power.
- And because these types of situations are happening constantly in life, and cannot be kept in check, we would be foolish to rely on will power to help us eat the right foods and avoid the wrong ones
First Strategy Instead of Will Power: - Bright Lines
- There are a couple systems to make sure that proper food choices happen repeatedly and automatically.
- One is having "Bright Lines" -- clear and unambiguous boundaries about what you will and won't eat. "No oil" is a bright line. "No animal products" is a bright line. When you're emotionally taxed, the brain can't do any clever discernment, and if you don't have big bright lines to follow, it is possible you will choose poorly
- The opposite of bright lines is having fuzzy lines. Fuzzy lines are things like, "Sugar's not the worst thing in the world" and "Baked goods are fine once in a while" and "Maybe I'll think of today as a feast day". Fuzzy lines are the things that help us rationalize making bad decisions.
Second Strategy Instead of Will Power: Planning and Preparation
- If you brought your lunch, then no matter whether you just fought with your husband, you do not have to make a decision about what's for lunch -- you just open the tupperware and eat your chili. Problem solved!
- If you're out and about, and get hungry, you don't have to try to negotiate the prepared-foods section of Whole Foods -- you pull the ziplocked apple out of your purse.
- You circumvent the need to make smart decisions about food, by planning ahead. You make your food choices when you are of sound mind and body, which is to say, before-hand.
Third Strategy Instead of Will Power: Habits and Rituals
- Create habits that are healthy, so that you can go on autopilot
- People who eat the same lunch every day do not have to rely on will power -- they just reach for the bowl of leftover veggies and rice that they have waiting for them.
- People who eat the same two or three breakfasts can probably make their oatmeal-and-blueberries ritual happen, even if they're running a few minutes late. In a pinch, they can make it happen at work, because they know what their ritual is, and don't need to make any decisions about it.
Back-Up Plan, When Will Power is Actually Needed
- If you are confronted with temptation (like everyone gathering at work to celebrate a co-workers birthday over cake), the ways to replenish your will power and enable yourself to make the right decision are:
- Find a person to help you through this. Go text a friend about how there's this stupid cake, and you're just going to claim you find cake too sweet for your tastebuds these days.
- Use prayer or meditation to steady you and offer the willpower you need. She says both are will power strengtheners, and can pull you through in a pinch. Go to the bathroom to pray, which is where everyone goes to pray, right?
- Go find strength in gratitude: you're so happy to have found this way of eating, you are so blessed to have this job, you are so grateful that birthday cake is not a flavor that you would find more tempting.
- Go find ways to be of service -- find people who are sitting alone and introduce yourself; help dish out the cake and pass out plates; go make a pot of coffee and offer it to others who may be abstaining from cake.
That's the summary of Video 1! Now you don't have to watch, unless you really want to.