I may be wrong about the motivation of the people encouraging me to get surgery. I just don't understand why someone would continue to tell you do something after you just told them the problem would resolve itself with natural weight loss. Either they don't think I'll lose the weight or they don't think my breasts will really shrink or they think a quick fix now is a good short term solution. I do know they feel bad for me and they would like to see me not in pain. So, I don't see it as negative necessarily but it's frustrating for me. I don't like having to repeat that I need to lose weight or I plan to lose weight or if I just lose some weight. I hate this struggle as it is without my failed efforts at reaching an ideal body weight being the topic of conversation every time .... whatever. Less talking more doing.
The people in my life right now were not in my life at my heaviest weight. They have just seen me going up and down the same 20lbs over and over again for the last 5 years. My cousin just knows that her daughter is so happy and she wants that for me. I was estranged from my family for about 20+ years and we're all very happy to be getting to know each other again. My cousin and her family just became vegan after I recommended Forks Over Knives to them. They're wonderful people. My best friend is someone I reconnected with from high school after our 20 year class reunion. We hadn't seen each other since high school. She was flat as a pancake and I had "big breasts" by high school standards back in the day and so she has a hard time believing my breasts will get smaller. I keep telling her I wore a C-Cup bra in high school but that's now how she remembers it. It's funny because she had breast implants and her breasts will be bigger than mine when all is said and done!
I'll check out the link you provided Lexus. Thanks.
Chile, I have 3 Enell bras and all 3 rubbed the skin right off the underside of my breasts. There's a seam in them that must hit me in the wrong spot. I've tried different sizes to see if it was the fit. I've repositioned my breasts to see if it was the way I was wearing it but nothing helped. I'm bummed, too, because a) those bras are very expensive and b) they do hold the girls in place better than any other bra. I've tried just about every single bra on the market for women my size. I've been on running forums taking suggestions from other large breasted runners. Right now, my 3-bra combo seems to work. The outside bra is really the support. Then I have a tank-type bra underneath that shields my breasts from any seams in the outside bra and then the shelf-bra in the running top adds a little extra hold. I still bounce but it's tolerable (if I don't have PMS). Sometimes my arms fall asleep from the pressure of the bra straps. The Enell made it really hard for me to breathe. Sigh. Luckily my breasts will shrink while I shrink. So, I don't have to wait 6 months to notice a difference.
Chile, I will definitely use that suggestion of food = more harassment about unnecessary surgery when I feel tempted!!! I'll just relive this latest discussion in my head until my ego and stubbornness beat the desire for garbage! It's interesting that people don't think twice about recommending serious and costly surgery with substantial recovery required but would never tell me to lose weight. That would just be rude.
I feel so much better just talking this out with you guys. Thanks!
Just had a taco salad for lunch. Yum.