we try to teach students not to eat like orcs during lunch interviews with potential employers and was just a wee bit stressed out at the state of child-rearing. Obviously, if you spend a couple hours with the worst examples possible, you get a jaundiced view of things...
Most parents are doing as well as they can, and passing on their own bad habits without bad intentions.
Eating like orcs!!!
That certainly is a good word picture! Are you a school teacher?
I was married late in life (35) and our babies were born when I was 37 and almost 39 - my husband and I are the same age - so we for years watched our younger siblings raise children, watched our cousins and other relatives too, and took mental notes. We knew just what we wanted to do if we ever had our own kids. I totally know where you're coming from when you say you see kids behave and wonder how they are being raised because I used to do the same thing.
It is amazing how many people think that we are doing it all WRONG - when we know that what we are doing is the RIGHT things!!!
One of my relatives who weaned her baby from formula at a very young age and put her on skim milk because she was getting "too fat" is of the opinion that our children are malnourished because we allow them to have no butter fat in their diet. My brother and his wife, whose children don't know what food looks like before it's made into nuggets and frozen, think we are total loons.