Jeff,
Thank you very much for your response.
JeffN wrote:I love your story and hearing about the changes you have made and how you have gone about it. And that you and doing this together with you wife. Keep supporting it each other and remember, people move forward at different speeds.
Thank you. I am very lucky to have my wife on this journey with me.
This 'way of life' feels very natural to me. I'm not sure how to explain this... When I was in elementary school I was overweight. As I entered Junior High I started cycling competitively and I lost weight and became healthy. It seemed I could eat anything and still remain healthy and slim. For the past 20 years, however, I have worked at a desk job and have lead a sedentary life. Every year I have tried to lose weight and improve my health. Some years I was more successful than others, but in the end I always ended up back where I started.
Over the past 18 months I have gradually come to realize that exercise, while important, is not the magic key to health I thought it was. Reading your thread on
how much exercise is enough made me realize that I must choose a life-long diet that will allow me to maintain my weight
without intense exercise. If I don't, then every time I am sick... everytime I go on vacation... everytime I am facing a deadline at work... I will gain weight (and this is what has happened over the years).
I still exercise, but I don't depend on it compensate for a poor diet. Instead I modified my diet... and everything 'clicked'. I don't feel any drive to revert to the way I was before. I still fail from time to time, but almost always due to lack of planning. I pick myself up and focus more conscientiously on my short- and long-range plans.
As you say, "This is a way of life, not a diet."
JeffN wrote:"Baby steps work only if they are the right steps..."
We do understand this. I know what works for me. We are discovering what works for my wife.
For example, when I started, my biggest obstacle was food prep. Instead of waking up late and grabbing a bite at 7-Eleven, I needed to wake up at 4:00 AM, eat breakfast, make my lunch, and get in a workout. I started with store-bought processed oatmeal with tons of added sugar for breakfast and ham and cheese sandwiches for lunch. I chose ham and cheese sandwiches because they were very quick to make, they travelled well, and the ham and cheese would keep for a long time in the refrigerator without spoiling. After my workout, I ate a bag of edamame and downed a protein shake. I knew that my nutrition had not improved much, but I was getting up early and making my lunch (which, half the time I forgot to take anyway). This was an essential first step.
I had to buy storage containers and a lunch box for my sandwiches... pans and microwavable dishes for my breakfasts and dinners. In retrospect, these were minor details, but at the time they seemed daunting.
Once I had the habit of getting up early, eating breakfast, and making a lunch, I gradually started substituting foods with better choices. The cheese became pickles and peperoncinis... the bread became a whole grain bread with no added oil and very little sugar... the processed oatmeal with tons of added sugar became oats with frozen blueberries... the edamame became an apple... the protein shake became water... and finally the sandwiches became sweet potatoes or pasta primavera and a salad without dressing.
Right now my diet is around 8-10% fat, 10-12% protein. Around 1,500 mg of sodium, 700 mg calcium, 2:1 ratio of omega-6:omega-3. 95% of my food is fruits, vegetables, starchy vegetable, grains and legumes. Total calories are just shy of 2,000 per day and my weight has dropped from 245 to 175. I am very happy and I feel like I can easily eat this way the rest of my life.
My wife has different obstacles from me. She loves her fat (salad dressing, butter, avocado, olives, cheese, cream, tofu) and it is hard for her to give up. She has eliminated meat, cheese, and added butter. She still takes 1 tablespoon of cream with her tea in the morning, and she still uses a full-fat salad dressing (though not as much). She still purchases many of her meals on-the-go (but is making better food choices).
We understand about calorie density and what our long-range goal should be. My hope in asking for a 'Diabetes Triage' was that you would respond along the lines of:
1. Eliminate meat
2. Exercise
3. Eliminate dairy
4. Eliminate added sugars
... i.e., a list of three or four dietary goals that would achieve the greatest result with the least amount of change to help us avoid "spinning our wheels, getting no where, getting frustrated and often quitting."
I thought I had read all of your posts about diabetes. Turns out I hadn't read
any of them (I must have searched for McDougall's posts, instead). I've remedied that oversight.
If I may paraphrase...
At the risk of putting words in your mouth, it seems like you are saying: "Improving your health in the face of diabetes involves a 'pattern of eating' not simply the elimination or addition of a few select foods. Get the principles right and the rest will follow." (I understand that this is a public forum and you can not offer personalized advice. I may take you up on your offer to consult... but first I have more reading to do
)
JeffN wrote:"Just too clarify the recommended alcohol from me is 0."
No problem. We've got this covered. I haven't had any drinks in over 30 years and my wife drinks 1-3 glasses of wine a year.
JeffN wrote:"It sounds like you have a really intelligent and sound approach to this, are making great progress and just need to keep going."
Thank you.
Note: I have edited my first post, above, to include links to threads that were the most useful to me. I would like to quote the passages that I found especially helpful, below, but it occurred to me that you might not want those quotes taken out of context and you might prefer that I just post the links.
Cheers,
"Before Enlightenment chop wood, carry water. After Enlightenment chop wood, carry water." -- Zen proverb