This post has been simmering in the back of my mind since the day I read it. My very first reaction was absolutely NOT! Some of the reasons already mentioned made me think that, 1) I'm still a freak every minute of the day I'm not on these boards and 2) I'm relatively mainstream in a lot of ways and 3) something about the way it is written makes me think I'm being insulted.
Fortunately, I let myself absorb it a little and turn it around and look at it from different angles. Now I think Jim may be onto something here. I always think I'm the exception to every rule. I'm not sure I feel the need to be different for the sake of being different. It's more like (and this may just be semantics) I don't want to work very hard for anything. If other people look like they're working really hard for something I instantly look for shortcuts. I always think I can find an easier, softer way to do things and get the same results as everyone else. This is a chronic, lifelong issue with me. I didn't need to go to class, or keep up on my reading or start my papers early in college. I don't need to stretch after running or warmup before running. I don't need to be at work when everyone else does. I don't need to follow MWL every minute of every day even in restaurants, on vacation, or at street festivals (
). Surely, there's a way to get what everyone else has but with WAY less effort.
When I'm desperate or scared I think I'm willing to go to any lengths to get better. As soon as I feel a little better I think I got a little carried away there for a minute. No need to get all extra-curricular with this whole no oil, no processed foods deal, right? I can NEVER have another vegan scone from Co-op? Really??
I remember, before I got sober, I would call the AA hotline every day. I would get a recording (there's a real person who answers the phone these days) and it would say, press 1 for Monday's schedule, 2 for Tuesday's schedule and so on. I would write down all the meeting times and instantly feel better. It was such a relief to know there was a solution. Unfortunately, that was all the relief I needed and I would never actually go to a meeting! That went on for months! Needless to say, things never got better. Finally, I went to a meeting and my life changed. The one thing, the only thing in fact, that I have ever taken someone else's word on is that I need to keep going to AA meetings. Every person I know who started drinking again said (assuming they lived to tell me this) they quit going to meetings and eventually things fell apart. Normally I would think I was the exception to this rule. For some reason I am not willing to play around with my sobriety. I refuse to look for an easier way because the potential risk is too great. Clearly, I have not taken my physical health as seriously. I still think I can find a way to half-ass this thing and get the results I want. Well, I don't really think that. I've moved into the next phase which is believing I have to follow this plan 100% but thinking it's OK to start on some other day. I'll get there.
This is a very interesting and thought provoking topic. Thanks Jim!! It helps me to look deeper at my motivations and my refusal to just do this thing. It's a choice I'm making and I need to take responsibility for that.