No offense taken, Nomikins! And I can absolutely see how you could have thought it might be a factor from my post.
Let me reassure you I did put a nice outfit on - I still have some clothes left over from my way up the scales. And I'm one of these people who puts makeup on every single day - the minimum is foundation, mascara, powder and a bit of gloss or lipstick.
The stuff to do with my "guy" issues hasn't ever affected my relationship. It's always been more about strangers or friends who make sexual comments, gestures, or overtures. It's fine if my husband makes them (well, mostly, anyway!)
And I am doing this for myself and my health, first and foremost. Right behind that is for my kids - both so I have a better chance of being around to see them grow up and to set a good example. Third is for my relationship and my husband. Both the secondary reasons are tied, to some extent, to my physical and mental health.
Jim, I hope you're right about his noticing when other guys do, but I'm not optimistic. He's one of the least jealous, least concerned what other people think, people I've ever met. Since he genuinely only cares about the opinions of a small group, it would have to be one of them who made a comment.
Thanks for the support. I'm slowly coming out of my bad mood.