jay kaye wrote:California and Oregon have similar laws.
J
Still what is scary, is the fact money can come first, health second. I have worked where I have questioned "What is Hospice doing here?" Families become paralyzed when taking care of a love one, from the time and cost of uncertainty of how long it will last. The families that do the best, is where a separate trust is set up to take care of the loved one, and can't be touched by anyone. A third party handles it. Still the person and they are influenced by the family. Hawaii is a missionary state, and it took 20 years for the law too pass. Well at least it opens the conversation. I have seen amazing care in keeping a loved one comfortable, fed and loved to the very last moment of their life. I have witnessed many deaths, and it always amazes me the peace that is resonated. The body takes over, where even medication is not needed though it is still pushed. And like my children, feeding tubes for the loved ones are requested and supported because of the difficulty in letting go. Again the conversation is what is important.
Aloha, patty
