I have never seen this topic mentioned, or read about it in any books. But I know that, in the back of my mind, I am afraid of losing a lot of weight. ....and while I know I can do it, I wonder who I will be then? It's scary to undergo such a change.....
If anyone knows of any resources I can read about this, I would appreciate it. I know I can't be the only one who has this fear, can I?
You are not alone, Amy. I, too, have been held back by fear all my life because of this. It's as if we say to ourself, once I'm no longer fat, what will I become? How will I behave? What will I do with the attention I get? etc...
I'm convinced that the fat acts as "insulation" between us and other people. We keep them at arms length by building a protective wall of fat around ourselves. As that wall comes down, all kinds of feelings that have been bottled up for years come out: anger, fear, memories of past hurts, etc. And all those feelings that we stuffed down with food start to bubble to the surface. Those feelings have to be dealt with, one at a time, or we will soon sabotage ourselves and return to the old, comfortable way of numbing ourselves with food.
Talkingmountain's post was excellent on how to deal with this fear. As the weight comes off you will have to manage these fears, and it's not something that can be postponed.
For the first time in my life, at the ripe old age of 62, I've been slim for a couple of years. And you know what? I've been fat and I've been thin, and thin is better.