Hello and welcome.
Have you read the information here: http://www.drmcdougall.com/free.html
Dr McDougall gives you everything you need to start with right here and free. It's important that you understand what we do and why we do it if you want to succeed. Don't wait to be "in the mood" to eat correctly or to exercise. The only secret to doing this program is just to do it
I'm guessing that you have not read the information about the McDougall program because, when you listed your "good" and "bad" food choices, your "good" choices were not good! Corn flakes are processed, soy milk generally is too high in fat, pasta and pretzels contain refined flour. All of those things are not good for you. Read the material I linked you to, and check out the food lists there. You'll see what I mean.
The good news is that there are so many wonderful foods that are GOOD for you! A lot of emphasis is given here to healthy starches: whole unprocessed grains, potatoes of various kinds, beans and legumes. All of these things are delicious and satisfying. Even more than the starches, though, you should be eating lots and lots of colorful vegetables, especially leafy greens. If you are eating at least a pound of leafy greens and another pound of cooked vegetables every day, along with, say, a cup of cooked beans, maybe a serving of oatmeal, and a couple of fruits, you will be happily full and you can't help but lose weight. Stay away from processed foods; they have been stripped of their natural nutritional values and stuffed full of salt, sugar, and things you only find in a laboratory. Do not use any oils, avoid foods made with oils. These are highly processed "foods" and neither good for you , nor necessary in your diet.
You mentioned honesty in your initial post and that is excellent. You will need to be completely honest with yourself about what you are eating and why you are eating it. To do otherwise puts you into denial and that's a trap that is very hard to escape from. Any time you are not seeing progress, give yourself a reality check, review the principles of the program, and find where you are going off track. You really can do this, and you are going to feel so good!!