Kelly and Jellen,
The book is THE LAST ADDICTION by Sharon A. Hersh.
Sharon is a recovering alcoholic, but she identifies many addictions that hinder us that I think we who are struggling with this whole food thing can really relate to.From her introduction:
"I hope to stretch your thinking about addiction. The truth is that no one escapes the reality of compulsion. Everyone loves something too much. Everyone struggles with passion gone awry...We all suffer from the same condition. We all seek a resting place from striving and suffering, and we often cling to what promises to be a haven, only to find out that we have created our own hell. I hope this book will deepen your compassion and commitment to yourself and to others, all those who are in bondage to something that initially promised to make everything better, until it made everything worse."Here's her outline:
begins by uncovering the lies we tell about addiction. As we see more clearly our own hearts and our longings for intimacy, we will be able to put words to the lengths we will go to kill, satisfy, control, or find substitutes for those longings.
tells some true stories about addiction. In truth, we learn most about ourselves and the true meaning of redemption in reading of strugglers who fall down, get back up, and fall down again.
considers what redemption looks like. This is not a self-help book. I am deliberately not using the words recovery
, because these words can get us into more trouble. That's the last addiction, the idea that I can save myself with myself. We know-I mean deep down we know
-that it is futile to try to save ourselves with the very selves that got us into trouble in the first place.
~In the final chapters we will examine the healing path and what it means to live-really live-in newness of life, free from self-defeating, self-enslaving patterns of behavior."One more quote that really resonated with me:
"I am convinced that the experience of addiction and redemption can include many gifts. This book considers the gift of getting caught, because this is when we have the chance to experience being known, loved, and still wanted. We will find the gift of wisdom in telling the truth about addiction and its place in our lives. We will examine the gift of humiliation that leads to the gift of surrender--the ability to exchange my way and will for another Way and Another's will. We will look at the unlikely gift of woundedness, because wounds, no matter how painful or unsightly are where Love gets in with the healing gifts of mercy and forgiveness. And all along the way we will be looking for the gift of hope. Hope is what pulls the soul forward, and if your are mired down in addiction or love someone who is addicted, you know that hope can become a scarce commodity. Finally, we will define the gift of freedom, that newness of life that doesn't mean the ability to do whatever we want, but that releases in us a longing to want the One in whom we were created to live and move and have our very being."
I'll stop there, in fear that I'm just going to re-type the entire book right here in my journal!
If you want to read this with me, I'd love to discuss it with you as we work our way through it. We can figure out the best way to accomplish that, if you're game. I'm just starting it, so I'd love to have company!