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I am really sorry for the situation you are in. I found myself in a similar medical situation, and my wife stepped up and was my champion in the kitchen. I always knew that she loved and cared about me, but I did not realize how much until I was diagnosed with heart disease. She was the one running out to get the books and re-learning how to cook. And if you had a chance to look at her before and after pictures, you would know how she benefitted too.http://www.drmcdougall.com/forums/viewtopic.php?f=13&t=24750
I'm glad that you have a place to air your grievances here, but having to do so IMO shows that there are some serious problems in your marriage. Hopefully, she is just shell shocked by the diagnosis and having trouble adjusting. My own belief is that problems like this are best addressed between you two through some type of counseling since you seem to be at an impasse. I think it is bad for you medically as well as emotionally to be feeling that she is not behind you in this. This is life and death, sickness and health, and it is important that you know where she stands. If she is not going to be there for you, it is better to deal with it now than later. Best of luck. It is a tough problem.
Brad wrote:SactoBob, you are right on. She is not shell shocked, but rather kind of 'you're making too big a deal of this'. I only have 50% blockage after all . She takes statins and thinks I should too (she is a nurse with all the medical stinky thinking). She thinks it is a phase and asks when I'll be eating normal again.
And yes you are right on, marital problems, many years of therapy. I have learned not to take her issues personally and have not blown up in a long time. Her predominate feature is very controlling.
circle city vegan wrote:I'm not sure why you think you can't cook in those pans though except that it grosses you out.
She might be thinking the same way about the pans and if they're cleaned properly it doesn't matter what's cooked in them.
jld wrote:You would really leave a spouse over this sort of issue?There have been plenty of times when my husband was disappointed with my eating, but he would never leave me. He is deeply committed to our marriage. His commitment is the foundation of our marriage. I can't tell you the healing that it has brought to my life, and the stability it gives our children.I guess we are all different here in many ways, even though we share a belief in McDougalling.
janluvs2heel wrote:I am glad that I am not the only one who was quite shocked to hear people giving advice that someone should leave their spouse because they dont want to eat the same way. Leaving someone over their food choices is really low.
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