SactoBob, you are right on. She is not shell shocked, but rather kind of 'you're making too big a deal of this'. I only have 50% blockage after all . She takes statins and thinks I should too (she is a nurse with all the medical stinky thinking). She thinks it is a phase and asks when I'll be eating normal again.
And yes you are right on, marital problems, many years of therapy. I have learned not to take her issues personally and have not blown up in a long time. Her predominate feature is very controlling.
It isn't my business . . . but you did bring it up so . . .
Why do you stay with her?? Trust me (and I know this from experience) one day you will wake up and realize that if you had left 10 years ago you would have had 10 years of a happier and healthier life. Don't do that to yourself!
Anyone who refuses to see serious health issues for what they are doesn't really care about you. I hate to say that bluntly like that, but it's just true. If you love someone you will do whatever it takes to help them return to health (even giving up --
-- chicken and oil!), and if you think about that, you'll realize it's true.