Despite all of the bad behavior my wife exhibits, lying is not really something she'll do, especially on something I could easily check up on. I don't really have any reason to doubt he feels that way, it was pretty much to be expected. Did she possible goad him into saying what he did, or just make the statement and have in agree to it, yeah that's possible. But in the end it doesn't really change much. "T" said he wanted more information, I asked if he had Netflix, and he did. I told him he should watch "Forks Over Knives" and then we could talk more about it. He hasn't said anything yet, and I don't want to seem too pushy and risk damaging our friendship.
When she does mention to people that I am vegan, she will sometimes follow up with my weight loss numbers, like she is proud of me, so it is hard to figure out what her purpose is.
Also, you guys mostly just hear from me when I'm venting. Things can get frustrating around here, and even annoying, but it's never really hell. Hell was where I was before discovering this way of eating.VegSexy
I could never get the wife to a counselor, or mental help professional. She has a pretty large disdain for regular doctors, I'd probably get banned from the forums if I expressed her opinions of psychiatrists and psychologists.
I think the reason they try to sabotage us is they feel guilty. They see what we are doing and decide that can't or won't so in order to make themselves feel better, they try to bring us down. #2 son is a perfect example of this. He knows this way of eating works, he knows how much better he feels, but he tried to be moderate and only eat "bad" food once in a while, it kept happening more and more. Now he's completely off, has gained 12 pounds and it would be easier for him to feel better if I went off my "diet" than for him to get back on. Irregardless of my feelings that this "diet" has saved my life, he's not consciously trying to kill me, he's subconsciously trying to make himself not feel like a failure.♥ Amy ♥
Welcome back! I'm honored my journal was so high on your priority list.
I think I have decided that the subject of one's diet is more personal that their religious or political views. My wife can get spun up just by seeing someone else's bumper sticker, is it any wonder that food seems to make her so crazy. nicoles
I think "irrationally insecure" is the perfect term for it. She's always been hyper jealous. I had a business meeting Yesterday morning and she was super suspicious. Wanted to know if either of the two people I was meeting with was female, stuff like that. Said I was sneaking around.
Heck, we've had fights because she didn't think I was jealous enough. I just explained to her that my ultimate goal in our relationship was for her to be happy, and if she decided that she would be happier with someone else, then I wouldn't try to stop her. I also explained that if she ever decided to have an affair and I found out, she would have to leave the house.AlwaysAgnes
I was almost always one of the fattest people in a room, building, grocery store, restaurant. I never noticed other fat people, or skinny people for that matter. Now i see the fat people. Oh yeah, I know I'm still fat, but I see it everywhere now. It's more noticeable to me in grocery stores or restaurants, where you can see their food choices. I might have even mentioned this guy once, I was at Wendy's. Big guy, close to 400, walks from his car, has to lean against the building and rest for a couple of minutes, makes his way to the order line, has to lean on the railing while he orders multiple hamburgers (baconators I think). It's sad, it's tragic, but I understand it, and I also realize there's nothing I could do. Except maybe get myself slim, cause there's nothing worse than dietary advice from fat people.Adrienne
Maybe I will order that book. I've seen parts of his lectures, and I respect his work immensely, but I dislike his speaking style, so I have a hard time watching him.oregonmom
Oh yeah, no question she is insecure. Her best argument against me is me changing is not fair to her. That this more active lifestyle that I am moving towards is not what she signed up for, because it's not who I was 15 years ago. I tell her I know, but it's who I've always wanted to be. At that point she generally just starts crying.carollynne
I am so pulling for your DH to be successful with this way of eating!fulenn
I have always believed that love is far more than an emotion, that it encompasses our actions towards and thoughts about our loved one.
I like that sentiment a lot.JennieZ
I know, I know...Me last Fall
: I've discovered this amazing secret on how to be healthy and lose weight and reverse diabetes and heart disease and so many other things. All you have to do is eat no animal products and maintain a very low fat, plant based, starch centered diet.Me now
: Yes, I'm a vegan. I've lost 85 pounds, gotten rid of diabetes, angina, sleep apnea and dropped my cholesterol dramatically. Well it works for me.Me next year
: Yes I'm a vegan, now leave me alone.Me in 5 years
In the car Yesterday, the Wife mentioned that she noticed that I seemed to be more opposed to dairy than I was to meat. I told her it was simple, that she could show me in nature, where 1000's of other species ate meat, granted none of them cooked it or needed knives to cut it, but still they ate it. But she couldn't show me another species on the planet that consumed dairy after adulthood and from another species. Also that i felt dup'ed, because I had bought into the dairy industry's lies about humans NEEDING milk products to get enough calcium. I finished with, isn't it funny that the countries with the highest dairy consumption are also the countries with the highest rates of osteoporosis.
When we got home a rare thing occurred, we cooked dinner at the same time. She wanted to make BBQ's ribs, so I made the seitan ribs. I cooked some white rice in my new rice cooker. She added mushrooms, cheese and eggs to her and finished it off in the frying pan, I stir fried mine with mushrooms in water with a little soy sauce.
Earlier in the day she had been attempting to make maraschino cherries from scratch, but had over salted them during the brining stage. She added some cooked potatoes into the cherries in a fresh bath to try and pull some salt out. So I wound up grilling cherry juice stained potatoes on the grill, they were good. BTW she wound up making a cherry BBQ sauce with the over salted cherries, it's amazing.
While we were both cooking together, she asked me if I ever missed her cooking. I told her yes, I think she is a great cook. We just currently disagree on ingredients.
Leaving tomorrow for a bowling tournament / golf outing for the weekend with #2 and #3. Should be interesting. I'm pretty pissed at #3, his car is not running right and he keeps wanting to borrow mine, instead of taking his somewhere to get it fixed. He starts a new job in a week. He said he was going to quit his current job last night. I told him he should give two weeks notice. The Wife said that's not really done anymore, and it's an old fashioned mentality. I don't know? Either way, it's not like #3 has money to burn, he could have used the money. So he went in and quit on the spot. I just hope he's not expecting me to pay his way this weekend, or he's going to have a bad time.
I have no clue about food choices. I should probably prepare something to take, just in case. Although, it's not like I just began this way of eating. I can make do, just about anywhere. I don't worry about that stuff anymore, like I used to.
I hope everyone has a great weekend!