Chile Bummer about missing out on the grand. Guys also tend to have a much easier time losing weight than most women. I hear that one from the wife all the time.
carollynne One of the things that upsets the wife is she has lost 70 pounds since 2009, and nobody really notices. She also gets mad that I don't give her any credit for losing the weight. My opinion is, it's the out of control diabetes. She stopped taking insulin and gave up trying to control her blood sugar, so that is why I think the weight has come off.
She also wasn't cooking that often for me, they year before I began this way of eating. I was either getting fast food on the way to and from work, or I was eating out of a box from the freezer to the microwave.
dlee I had no plans to tell her I was that close, but when she asked what I weighed the other day, I told her, "It's not important." So she demanded to know and I told her.
The wife and I went out on Sunday to a pick your own strawberry place. The strawberries had been picked over for the most part, and most of what was left was over-ripe. Cherries were in season, so we picked 30 pounds of cherries. It was a fun day.
We went out to eat at a Japanese hibachi. The only thing I asked the waitress, was if there was dairy in the salad dressing. I ordered the grilled vegetables and steamed white rice. Of course the wife announced to everyone else at the shared table that I was a vegan. i guess she's trying to embarrass me when she tells complete strangers I'm a vegan, or maybe she's just trying to get people on her side, or get sympathy for having to live with me, I don't know. I don't have to defend my way of eating to people, but I'm very well armed with knowledge and facts if I do decide to engage.
We were sitting out on the back deck after getting home and she brings up the subject of me weighing less than her. She starts crying and says that everybody is going to think she's stupid for not doing the same thing to lose weight. I explained to her that nobody will think that, because they're too busy thinking I'm crazy. I have not converted a single person. Even my own Mother referred to me as a "Vegan Nazi" to one our mutual friends. My DIL watched FoK's with me, and won't do it. #2 Son did it, had success, and is now trying to get me off the "diet".
I admitted to her, that because of how much better I felt, and how quickly, that I had delusions about getting other people to try giving up animal products and added fats. I didn't realize how difficult to impossible this seems to be for most people. She told me that my friend "T" told her he thinks I'm crazy and that he hated the vegan meal he ate with me. That hurts my feelings a bit, but I guess it wasn't all that unexpected.
Then it got weird. I think she accused me of being an anorexic. She brought up that it was unreasonable for a man of my frame to weigh less than 200 pounds, and that all I was losing was muscle and was wasting away to nothing. She claimed I was sacrificing my health to get my weight lower. My BMI is still slightly above 30, so clinically I'm still obese. I showed her my belly fat to prove to her I still have lots of weight to lose. She claimed that's just skin, you'll never get rid of that without surgery. I asked how thick she thought skin was. She made reference to the show "My 600 Pound Life" were they will surgically remove folds of fat and skin from these people about they loose the first 100 pounds or so. I told her, that 40 pounds of skin is really, 1 pound of skin with 39 pounds of fat attached.
Then she preached about moderation. One of the people at the Japanese restaurant had celiac disease, but said sometimes he couldn't resist and would eat pizza or something that wasn't gluten free. So somehow in her mind, this guy's willingness to occasionally risk gastrointestinal distress, to satisfy a craving, made him superior to me in some way. So what I tried to explain to her is I have as much trouble resisting cheese as she has resisting broccoli. Resisting meat for me is like her resisting beans, it's a non issue. I'm not some super human pillar of self righteous will power like she seems to think I am, my tastes have just changed. That stuff is not food to me, anymore anymore than brussels sprouts are food to her.
Despite all that was said, I don't think we really accomplished anything. She's still upset I'm on the verge of weighing less than her.
It's very sad, she really can not see anyway for her to follow the rules of my way of eating. It seems like she has thought about it, but just can't figure it out. Meat is not the problem. It's the butter and cream she can't seem to do without. The thought of eating ANY vegetable, even the ones she likes, without butter, is abhorrent to her. I can't think of anything I can do for her. I can't do anything for anybody. I can only save myself.
Maybe I am crazy, maybe all of you reading this are just as crazy. My wife thinks we're all just lab rats in some experiment Dr. McDougall is running and that there's bound to be long term, detrimental side effects from following his diet recommendations. My wife asserts that it is impossible for diet to have any change on your body other than losing weight and that anything else is just placebo effect.
I know she's wrong. I know we're not crazy. It just makes me sad, that so many people I care about, seem to live in that alternative universe. They choose to live in that world. That world were you are at the mercy of doctors and drugs and genetics. I've told several people to try this diet for 4 days, and they will feel the difference. They all claimed that 4 days wouldn't be enough to notice a difference, but none were willing to try.
Sorry if I was too melancholy this morning. Just one of those days.