Glad you're feeling more positive! It's a big boat we're all in but I hope your husband comes around a little, I can imagine his comments and reactions seeming a little, um, rude, to say the least. Not to mention hurtful.
I'm just thinking though that, as you probably already know, people have so many emotions/thoughts attached to food. It becomes really personal and not just as simple as being just about food items so maybe it's the same with your husband? Especially what you said about his mother refusing to cook for him because of how you described it.
Eh, just an idea anyway. Good luck! I think you're doing good, by the way, getting into it an experimenting with recipies