I apologize for what may be viewed as a questionable concern, but I feel as though I am obsessing over my diet. At least, this is what my family and friends lead me to question!
For example, while my turning things down doesn't bother them, my special requests at restaurants do bother them. They also feel as though I have an obsession with being "too healthy." I'm always told that everyone will someday die, and that no Asian would turn down an occasional treat. But, the fact is, the majority would--because the taste is horrid.
Just to put this into perspective, they would consider Weight Watchers "obsessing" and a generally healthy diet with "exceptions" not obsessing.
I do worry that I obsess, and compared to my pre-McDougall days, it can sometimes feel that way. Is there a way to minimize this mindset? How do I feel more comfortable with this being just a lifestyle and not another "rule"?
The best rules and the ones we're most likely to keep are the rules we make for ourselves. Do the rules you live by belong to you or to someone else? Apparently your family and friends want you to live by their rules. You have to decide if that's okay or not. http://www.businessballs.com/rulesoflife.htm
One man's trash is another man's treasure. Treats aren't always treats. Treats may not always be good for you, but a treat is almost always something you actually want. If something doesn't appeal to you, then it's not much of a treat. I turn down things I don't want, but I usually don't say "I can't have that." I say "I don't want that," because the truth is that I can have any food I want. As for special requests at restaurants, you are the customer, and the customer is always right, unless posted otherwise in the menu.
There is a learning curve involved in any change. You don't have to beat yourself up when you find yourself rubbing against the wall, unless that's what you really want...